Why Women allow others to step on Them
I have been thinking about this for a while now and my quick observation on women that allow others to take advantage of them or/and disrespect them. I will probably write another post on this but for right now, here are my quick thoughts on it.
I have seen some women that allow others step on them (only emotionally, this article doesn’t include physical), and it makes me wonder why this happens. Why would someone feel the freedom to be mean, put down, be sarcastic or take advantage of someone else? Here are somethings that I have seen some of these women (ones I have observed) have in common.
Their children are out of control.
Friends and family use sarcasm or belittle comments about them, in public and think it’s funny.
People always run to them for favors and don’t respect their boundaries. Nothing wrong with being a reliable person, but I am talking about taking advantage of someone’s willingness.
In this post I am just processing my thoughts. I see that for sure this is a self-esteem and boundaries issue, but it manifested in these common ways.
Usually for the ones that have children, the kids are out of control or can be disrespectful to their mom, which many times you may also see a father, that is also disrespecting the wife, either with sarcasm, belittling comments or the way they handle themselves with other women, friends and time. I have noticed that these women are always willing to do things for others and many times, get stuck doing things whether they wanted to do it or not. Because this is a boundaries issues, people know they can just dump on them, or make the comment and they will take it, or not respect the wife, by making that flirting comment to someone else.
I feel that a lot of women put up with it because they don’t see how valuable they are and how their children, husband, friends, family and coworkers should not disrespect them.
It’s ok to say, No! It’s ok to discipline your kid and tell them they are disrespecting you. it’s ok to tell your husbands that you will not compete with work, or other people that are in the way of their relationship. It’s ok to tell your family that you will not do all the dirty jobs or deal with the drama that no one else in the family wants to deal with.
When women see themselves as the person God created them to be, they can start valuing themselves. I know that as a “doer” that’s one of my strengths, however, it can also be my weakness. I have to be careful and have boundaries, so others won’t take advantage of me. I have had to learn to say No! It is not in my nature to do it, but I value my health, my time, and me. After all, God does say “love your neighbor as yourself.” So, I think when women love themselves (in a healthy way), they have a voice to speak up for their feelings and not allow others to step on them. Of course, this is easier said than done, but not impossible. All it takes is a little practice.
It breaks my heart to see women undermined and disrespected, I have often stood up for them not realizing that by me doing it, I was helping them value themselves.
